Lain's Log

A Tale of Two Trees

November 11/11.


Remembrance Day today. As a result, I am remembering people. Watching the emotional CBC coverage of the main ceremony at the National War Memorial in Ottawa this morning was a moving experience. Seeing the faces of the veterans and cadets, hearing the children's choir sing In Flanders Field, witnessing the two minutes of silence at 11 o'clock, followed by the flybys of military jets and helicopters and the firing of artillery guns, all brought tears to my eyes.

I didn't anticipate responding in quite this manner, but in light of missing my Mum and Uncle Ev (plus just generally being in a constant state of heightened emotion these days), I should have expected it. Wandered down to Withrow Park later in the afternoon to jot down a few thoughts in a notebook for myself, and for the blog.

To pick up my spirits, decided to wear a new outfit I bought yesterday. (Thankyou Carolyn and Neil, for the Winners gift card!!) I adore this dress, and the tights & boots! Feels good and this is the me I want to project right now. My daughter, Kate, took the photo in our backyard, surrounded by the beautiful trees. Which brings me to my next subject. TREES. I love them! Always have.
The big willow tree - (among others) in our backyard.

I'm not a "tree hugger", but immensely enjoy being surrounded by them and have been known to cry at length, when I see someone cutting one down, no matter the reason.

More of the stunning, colourful trees in our yard.

Nearly twenty years ago, when we were shopping for a house, I told Sam I wanted a place that didn't just look out over another house. I wanted a gorgeous view and TREES. When we discovered this Riverdale property, Sam looked out the back window, pointed,

and quipped to me, "Will THIS do"?? Yep.

To add to my bliss, the house is right down the street from Withrow Park, which in the fall (even well into November - like today, when I took this picture), the colours are golden and glorious!

And EVERYBODY looks better when surrounded by colour, trees and leaves!

Now my little tale of two trees. Each tree special in its own way. Recently, we were asked by our neighbours, Judith and Brian Hunt, to contribute to a fundraising event to pay for the planting of a memorial tree on Logan Avenue, off Withrow Park in memory of our late friend, Manuel Machado who lived on our tree-lined street for decades.

Everyone knew Manuel and he was such a familiar face on our street. Following a painful hip replacement, he insisted on walking each day to a special bench at the park where he would sit for a while and watch the world go by.

A few days ago, I received an email message from the Hunts, telling us, the tree, at long last, had been planted. Here's what it said.

"We can now report that the tree with its plaque is finally in place. As promised it is a sugar maple and located in Withrow Park beside Logan between Albemarle and Grandview. It looks rather fine".

"The Parks Dept didn’t let us know when the planting would take place as I had understood, but they did send a note saying it had happened, along with a certificate to prove it".



Manuel and Bambina Machado

"As promised, the small sum left over from the total collected has been sent to Hill House Hospice, the place where Manuel spent his last days".
Judith and Brian Hunt

Now, the little tree (in front), is surrounded by much bigger and grander trees, but one day, Manuel's sugar maple will grow as tall as they are!

Welcome to the neighbourhood and thank you to Judith and Brian for making it happen!

Now, moving on from one tree teller to the next!

The second tree tale will be told by "guest reporter" Carrie Loring, (my phenomenal sister). The tree she is reflecting on here, was very special to her and to her young son, Lee, (who is now 16, but will never forget the tree in his late Gramma's front yard). Take it Cayr!!

Carrie's tale of one tree.


My mother had a beautiful tree on the front of her property. It was
full and lush. Mum loved it.

Every time Lee visited his Gramma, he spent much time climbing high in this tree (with his Mum and Gramma nervous beneath it.)

One day, some years ago, lightning struck the tree, and it was
ruined.

We were all so saddened (Lee especially), when it needed to be removed. What a lush, full tree it was!

Lee, Carrie, Franc Mosbaugh, Kate, Lain, Gramma, Max, surveying the damage.

The city said they would replace it, but for months they never showed.
Finally, after numerous frustrating calls, they came to Mum's door
and asked what kind of tree she would like. They gave her a choice.
She chose the white chestnut tree. She had known a guy in highschool by the name of Hank Chestnut, and that association influenced her
choice. Another many months passed, no tree arrived,

and Mum continued to look out at the treeless yard,

and saw only a stump of the old tree. (It was particularly noticeable during garage sales, when we had NO shade in the front yard)! Then finally, the city showed up and planted what apparently was a
chestnut tree.
It was the skinniest little twig you have ever seen.
Mum was infuriated. We put more calls in to complain. She threatened to rip it out herself, and plant something else. Still no response back from the city.

She stared at this "Charlie Brown tree" every day, until one morning she woke up and decided that instead of fighting it, she would nurture it.

She watered him every day, and well, "Hank", as he was known, started to blossom, - not a lot, but a little. Mum hoped that she would live to see the day that Lee could climb the tree once again. (Of course, that was not to be). However, last spring, for the first time, Hank suddenly grew thick and lush. Lain and I have been amazed to see his growth! He is a "government tree", but it took years of bureaucracy and love to get Hank this far!

Now, when Lee passes by his Gramma's house, he doesn't always think of this devastation!


but of the days he used to energetically climb the tree,

and hoping, maybe one day, he, (or his own children?), will climb it again!

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Wedding day memories

October 22/11.

28 years ago today, Sam & I got married in Mum's livingroom. It was a fantastic and fun day! Cheers Sam! Ever since then, it's been quite the roller coaster ride, hasn't it?


Gorgeous white lace gown, over pink raw silk, (and stunning veil), all designed and made especially for me by the late, great Uncle Ev. Of course, I still have it. He modelled the gown after a picture I ripped out of a magazine as a teenager. At the time, I told him I wanted a lacy gown just like it. A decade later, he still remembered that request and asked me for the picture so he could create the wedding dress! I didn't even recall what he was talking about, till I finally located the tattered old mag shot somewhere in a file in my office.

He was determined to make that fairy tale wedding gown dream come true for me. Thanks for everything Uncle Ev!

Since Sam doesn't enjoy having his picture taken (I'm lucky he allowed me to use the wedding portrait here), - I posed for an anniversary photo on my own. This is a park around Sherbourne & Carlton, where I was waiting to pick Kate up from a training class for a job.

A man cutting thru the park offered to take this pic.

His name is Ezra. (he happened to be in the background of the photo I tried to take of myself, with the camera propped on top of the car. Who IS this guy, Forrest Gump??) LOL.

I took one of Ezra too! (kind of by accident, when I forgot to take the camera off 10 second automatic shot mode, - so quickly turned the Canon digi-cam on him!) Guess I surprised him!

Ezra
(After this, he surprised ME, by asking for my number! (Hit it again, Shatner, - "Weird or WHAT???") Told him I didn't think that would be appropriate on my wedding anniversary! Then he walked off into the sunset).
FYI - I've actually been thinking about buying a ticket to see William Shatner in concert at Massey Hall on November 3rd. Not sure I can resist!
The man is magic - "Denny Crane!!")

Later, Sam came home with a gorgeous bouquet of fall flowers for me.

Not to mention, the funniest anniversary card I've had in years! At the height of my current love of short skirts, tight tops, black lace and kick-ass Marilyn pumps, he gave me this greeting card with a black & white shot of a prim & proper old Victorian lady, hair piled high in an insane bun, all next to a prudish pair of long, white gloves, a mousey string of white pearls and a conservative cameo! Boy, was I laughing. (the only thing I AM likin' is the lace!!) The message inside was beautiful, to make up for the hilarity on the front, but can't wait for Carrie to see this card. (It actually brought tears to my eyes when I thought of the fact that I can't show the card to MUM! She would have been in stitches, lemme tell ya!) Thanks for the laughs Sam!

Later, my parents-in-law, joined us for a special dinner at The Mandarin to celebrate! (left to right, my son, Max, me, Jean & Ben Bornstein)

What are the odds that I would have the best parents-in-law in the world, AND the world's greatest kids, Kate & Max? (check out all the greeting cards we got tonight for my birthday and our anniversary!)

On top of that, the folks at The Mandarin brought us two pieces of black forest cake with candles on top! (we were so stuffed, we had to take them home!)

All in all, a great day!

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Mish Mash!

September 25/11.

I love Toronto so much. Beautiful city. Just passing this cityscape/skyline view on Broadview, (facing Riverdale Park) every day makes me happy. At a certain time of day, when the sun is setting, it's stunning.


I always imagine I can feel my late Mum and Uncle Ev, somehow filtering through that brilliant light, reaching my soul in the bright golden sunshine from that spot. Brings me closer to them for a brief moment.

My cousin, Kevan's rehab place (Bridgepoint), is right next door to Riverdale Park. Many times when we're out in the courtyard with him,

With Kev and my son, Max

we watch the birds and squirrels and just bask in the beauty of nature, even while we're surrounded by so many others in pain and peril, sitting outside in wheelchairs with us. It's ironic, that Kevan's fractured ankles and this long stay in rehab, resulted (in a way) from his love of nature. It happened on a hot summer day, August 19th, while at his cottage, tending to a problem on the roof, then he tumbled off, hitting the ground, landing on his feet, breaking bones in both ankles.

No matter what happens, Kevan has always had an aura of calm about him. I've questioned him about his relaxed, casual, laid-back nature and how he achieves it. He says it's just always been there. I think of myself as pretty easy-going about most things, (though that's become tougher as the years go by), and I know I covet Kev's quiet calm and his famous "WHATEVER" attitude.

Several times, Kev and I have talked about this weird cannon we can see just next to the Bridgepoint courtyard.


We don't know what it is, or why it's there, sitting next to a jogging path.


I walked over to take a few pics and look for a plaque to explain its significance, but, no plaque! - Only this date (above) of 1806.

The cannon points directly out over the city. Kind of ominous.

Later, while Googling "Cannon in Riverdale Park", came across this picture on an old postcard.

It doesn't explain much either, but maybe a blog reader out there knows something about this cannon. Let me know if you do!

Oh! And I FINALLY got permission from Kev's daughter, Sacha, to post a family pic from Malta! She's there with her Mum, (Kevan's wife, Marilyn), and Kev/Mar's new granddaughter, Sienna. This is my fave of all the family shots, showing the reunion of Sacha and Sienna with "baby Daddy" Mark, water polo player extraordinaire in Malta!


Sacha, Sienna (3-months-old), Mark in Malta - With parents as gorgeous as this, can you IMAGINE how Sienna will look when she grows up? Look out world! She's already adorable!!
Sacha, thanks for letting me share this fab fam portrait! Miss you all!

Now for a short exchange between musicians. Kinda funny.


The other day, street performer Dana Bolton (featured often on the blog), was asking me about Kevan.


He remembers him from the Rough Trade days and wanted to know how he's doing.


I told him he's whipping around in his wheelchair and improving daily. Whispered to Dana that I sneak Henkell bubbly into Kevio nightly to sparkle up his rehab dinners. Dana became very concerned and asked, "Is that ALLOWED? - Won't he get CAUGHT?" - FYI - Dana understands the importance of a fine beverage.


He embibes himself and is partial to Laker Lager - $1.75 per can).
I explained to Dana, "So far, so good. This is the ONE thing that only I CAN DO, and it's fun to share time with Kev in the process."
(See below, sneaky smuggling cuz Lain in a courtyard delivery).

So THEN what happened?? Well, the next visit to Kevio, he alerted me, "I got CAUGHT!!" Had to laugh. Kev went on to say a nurse told someone she could smell it on him!! Yikes. (And for anyone who worries he's on meds or something, he's not)! Kev takes NOTHING for pain, so that little bit of bubbly just takes the edge off his long and challenging days. At any rate, they didn't toss him out and I'll be there again tonight Kev, Henkell in hand. Cheers!

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